• Make a list of items you want to discuss so that when your child calls, you can cover any important topics.
• Begin your calls with positive news or praise for your son/daughter's achievement (even if it's a small one)
• Let your child determine the length of your talk. He or she may need to study or go to
class. Controlling the amount of conversation is also another way your child can exercise
his or her freedom. If you need more time, ask to schedule some uninterrupted time to
talk.
• Don't ask a question if you don't want to hear the answer. If you respond in a
judgmental fashion to something your child tells you it will limit how much he or she
shares with you in the future.
* Adapted from uwsuper.edu "Letting Go: Tips for Parents of New College Students"